Loving Thyself and Your Star Sign
My trying last six months has certainly taught me the importance of valuing myself. It is easy to get lost in the daily grind and end up neglecting ourselves. Some of us may even find the concept of loving oneself baffling and selfish. How do we ever love others if we aren’t capable of appreciating and loving ourselves first? How do you expect someone else to see the value in you if you do not see it in yourself? These are actually very basic rules in this journey called life which we will need to remind ourselves about every now and again. So let’s ‘discover’ ourselves again! There are activities we can engage in or tools we can use to harness the concept of loving ourselves and each star sign has a different way of doing so. Let’s see what loving thyself means to each star sign and how we can engage ourselves in living a fulfilling life.
Aries (Mar 21 – Apr 19)
Aries with their generous nature tends to place themselves last when it comes to attention giving. You feel more at ease when everyone else around you is comfortable and happy. A worrier as well because you are concerned if you have lived up to others expectations. You end up procrastinating doing things for yourself. The end result is an unhappy, tired and insomniac Aries. You really need to retreat back. Let’s begin with drawing those curtains and turning off all forms of communication and enjoy that long needed slumber to heal that tired body. Flick on some Oprah for a change, go for that long drive with your favourite music or just lay on that green grass which has been beckoning to you for so long! Get inspired and get things done for yourself for a change.
Taurus (Apr 20 – May 20)
Harmony is of utmost importance to Taurus and maintaining community synergy affects your decision making on every level. Whatever move you make on a personal level will be weighed by how it’s going to affect those close to you. You aren’t necessarily going to end up with what makes you most happy but as long as others are then you are at ease. The advice is, you are an individual as well as a friend, relative, child or even a parent. But at times you will have to give yourself the gift of solitude to feel from the depths of your soul what it is you truly want. And take the steps towards making it happen. You need to understand that if you are not happy then you won’t be able to do a good job at maintaining harmony! It’s time to book that solo holiday for some inner reflection. Somewhere where you feel at one with nature will do fantastic! So go on – at least get those plans going!
Gemini (May 21 – Jun 20)
Gemini’s need to get out of their heads more and start experiencing things more. There will always be something that you forgot to give your attention to. And you know what life is still going to carry on! Stop wasting your thoughts and energy on things that don’t need the sweating on. Rather focus on what you don’t have give thanks for what you have. Spending time with near and dear ones gives you emotional fulfillment. So do that more often. Don’t ever limit yourself in life. Get out of your head and jump into the deep end from time to time. You will surprise yourself. Travelling to exotic and far-flung destinations might help stir some inspiration. So get out there and seize the opportunities! You are much more capable than you think you are.
Cancer (Jun 21 – Jul 22)
Helping people sort out their problems is a noble thing to do but not when it comes at a cost of sacrificing your own plans. You will have to realise that sometimes people just got to take responsibilities for their own actions. And you will have to be the one to tell them just that. It doesn’t matter if you both go back a long way back or are as close as kins. Do it only if it is within your means and energy and time permits so. Start doing things for yourself for a change. Pressing pause on your plans while you help others has got to stop. Break free from this circle that you have drawn yourself into. Get all the things that you took a break from moving again in your life. Go create! Be your own boss. Once you do you will never look back!
Leo (Jul 23 – Aug 22)
The ever ambitious Leo hardly takes the time to rest and is constantly ploughing forward. You are ever generous with your time with whoever needs it which leaves you with not enough time spent on yourself. The advice is to slow things down every once in awhile and take time to smell the roses or just stare up at the glorious blue skies. So take heed, stop and breathe in the goodness of life and be in the moment. Reminisce about the past and good times you have had. And don’t forget to give thanks for the good that has taken place in your life!
Virgo (Aug 23 – Sep 22)
Virgos tend to expect perfection of themselves and those around them. Not to the point of being OCD but you do set very high goals and a meticulous plan is laid to get there. It’s an excellent attitude but you may be too hard on yourself when you begin to focus more on your failures than your successes. The key to your emotional well being and happiness is to practice everything in moderation. To accept your failures as stepping stones to your success. Take time out to spend with yourself and yourself alone. Be kind to yourself and give yourself that pat on the back because it’s high time you give YOU the credit you deserve!
Libra (Sep 23 – Oct 22)
Making sacrifices for the benefit of others is not an uncommon Libran trait. And not being able to pursue your life plans will leave you feeling frustrated with life. Allowing this never ending cycle to carry on will only spiral Libras into deep depression. When deciding to help others help yourself first by weighing the pros and cons of doing so. Though it’s noble of you to put your life on hold it should never come at a cost of your happiness. Give yourself the opportunity to listen to your needs and wants rather than putting others first. The key to unlocking your happiness is to then act upon making these needs and wants materialise. It will be hard at first but you will have to start somewhere to ensure you be kind to yourself.
Scorpio (Oct 23 – Nov 21)
Scorpions have a competitive streak which ends up letting them down when they aren’t able to achieve what they set out to do. It can also be a status symbol thing for you hence it’s important to stay ahead of the game always. After a while, this race could start to feel unfulfilling. So in order to keep things fresh for yourself, listen to your inner voice. Pursuing a new subject of learning or a hobby might do you good. In this way, you will give less focus to competing with others and shift the focus towards yourself and what inspires you instead. If there is a passion you always had but never pursued it because life’ got in the way, make a start towards it today!
Sagittarius (Nov 22 – Dec 21)
Sagittarius are extremely generous when it comes to people. So much so that their generosity could be abused by others. In order to keep the other party happy, you may promise things that you can’t really deliver. For a start, to stop feeling like you are struggling for time learn the art of saying ‘no’. Your time for yourself is just as important if not more important than anything else. Before you get too eager to please, step back and say ‘Let me get back to you on this.’ This will give you time to analyse and prioritise. Remember if you don’t allocate time to do things that make you happy how will you ever be able to make others happy?!
Capricorn (Dec 22 – Jan 19)
Capricorns have an insatiable appetite for success and can get quite selfish when it comes to getting to the top. You are willing to sacrifice whatever it takes at any cost. Your diligence in achieving goals is admirable together with your ability in making meticulous plans and strategies to get there. However, very often this leads to an imbalanced life. One who is caught up with fully utilizing their mental capacity tends to leave their emotional capacity redundant. The result might be dissatisfied partners and family members. Achieving balance is vital in living a fulfilling and enriching life. So Capricorn, it’s time to turn off those laptops and mobile devices and book that romantic or family getaway which is most needed to recharge your emotional being. Remind yourself how beautiful it is to be loved and to love!
Aquarius (Jan 20 – Feb 18)
Aquarians can be worriers. Most worry about finances or career matters. As witty characters, it’s important that they be kept excited about what they do. Because they get caught up in their minds too much there is a tendency to harbour old unpleasant happenings. As Aquarians, you are blessed with instincts. So for a change trying listening to them instead of your head. Trusting yourselves will lead you to people and places that you would least expect. It actually creates a whole pandora’s box of experiences. Harness your gift of your powerful instincts and never worry again! Relax and go where the tide brings you. And all will be well.
Pisces (Feb 19 – Mar 20)
The Pisces character is like this – It’s all or nothing. Meaning they can get extremely obsessed about something and just as easily lose interest. You have a tendency to get disheartened when things get tough, be very hard on yourself and think of the worst possible outcomes. You see it as a sense of realism. Fair enough. But what good does it do to you to grind yourself down? The key to achieving happiness for Pisces is structure and balance. Work within your strengths and weaknesses and you won’t ever go wrong. Keep positive. Anything is truly possible when you work within your limits. A good way to start sharpening the art of structure and balance would be to enrol with your nearest yoga class! It’s with practice that you attain perfection within and out.
Artist: Alisha Lee Jeffers